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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 3, 2010 9:35:13 GMT 12.75
I was vandalized! Yep, my dickhead brother Dave was tossed out of the house on his arse not too long ago. He lived on the street for ten days before apologizing to Mom and Dad and came home for a little while. Feeling sorry for him, I found him a job with free rent workling on a horse farm about forty minutes up the road. A live in position with a very nice apartment. Mom and dad bought him soe furnishings, gave him money to get started and bought him a computer to be able to better keep in touch with everyone. Just prior to his leaving, I had been using my Mom's computer since her desk is much more comfortable than mine to work from. So I go to ue my own computer after a few days and it doesn't work. I feared a lightnening strike since it's happenned before. I go back to using my mom's. Recently Mom's modem went out, we're on dial-up. So I take them both to therepair place and find out that lightening hadn't hit my system; the harddrive had bee removed and the connecting wires to the cooling fan were torn free and the modem damaged. NO WAY it could have been anything other than sabotage. I lost everything; the last couple chapters to the new novEl, ALL my financial/business files for my writing, Heirloom Game Calls, Rebel Yell Game Calls, Rebel Yell Livestock Associates, and a few other small accounts I keep. I'm so mad I can't even put it into words.... It sat for two weeks before I took it in for repairs and during that time I got two different phone calls from him casually asking if I'd gotten my computer fixed yet. Sumbitch better not cross my path for awhile!
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Post by Paws on Sept 3, 2010 10:01:42 GMT 12.75
You know Toby, if he is of age and the value of the data you had destroyed is over a grand.... Yes I noticed; however, this close to hunting season I figured you were setting up trips for hunts and stories so I wasn't concerned. Hey, are you guys related to Tifany or Josh? Those are some fine kids.
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Post by OLKoot on Sept 3, 2010 10:09:24 GMT 12.75
Toby, sorry to hear about the problem, I did notice you weren't around, but as Phil said, I thought you were caught up in the multitudes of things you do and post about especially at this time of the year....If you need any info from me, just ask and I'll have it sent to you......I didn't even know you were having trouble with David.....Last I heard, he went into the service, or was that B.S also? ?
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Post by Bro. Freddie on Sept 3, 2010 11:34:56 GMT 12.75
You were gone??!! ? LOL j/k I also noticed you weren't around, but you are about as busy as I am. Anything I can do or anyway I can help? ?
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Post by brittonfaith on Sept 3, 2010 14:59:03 GMT 12.75
Aww now, Toby, sugar, ya know I missed ya on here! Ain't had nobody to talk cows with over on FB. You missed one heck of a crazy week around my little hacienda! It got so bad, can you believe I just had to get drunk and jump in the lake?
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 4, 2010 16:14:34 GMT 12.75
Phil, Tif and Josh are great kids and no, were not related, but might as well be. Tiffany is Chicken's best friend and they are two of the biggest horse buts you'll ever meet. Josh, I met a few years ago at a hunt for disabled outdoorsmen. He's bound to a wheelchair, but since he's been in our little circle we've got him riding horses, redfishing on airboats, and bowhunting! He's got a great attitude and willing to try anything to get outdoors. Plus he's got a world class crush on both Chicken and Tiffany!
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 4, 2010 16:18:58 GMT 12.75
Koot, I knew you guys'd notice, but I wanted to tell ya'll where I been.
David did try to enlist, but they four-F'd him or whatever, but he didn't pass the physical and he went a little crazy. We've always had our handsfull with him, but he just went nuts these last few months. He told Tyler about two weeks prior to getting himself thrown out, that Mom and Dad would try to make him stay if he wanted to leave, so he was going to make them throw him out so he could go and have a life without us interfearing with him.
I guess all we can do is pray for him now, but he'd best not cross my path anytime soon or ya'll gonna be praying for me!
Freddie, you was prolly happy to get rid of me for awhile! If you'd help these fellers pray for the kid, I sure would appreciate it!
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 4, 2010 16:20:27 GMT 12.75
Faith, pass the jug and get ready for the splash cause the fat man's coming in beside ya! If anybody knows about how teenagers can go crazy, you'll understand what my folks are going through with him.
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Post by Snake Eyes on Sept 5, 2010 22:12:05 GMT 12.75
Toby, You know what they say, "You can pick your friends,but family is family!" I have been estranged from my oldest sister for 17 years. Why? She did not visit the funeral home or attend the funeral of our mother. Not because she didn't know, because I am the one that contacted her. My brother and other sister stay in contact with her.Me,I am an a-hole with a memory like an elephant.I do not attend any family function if she will be there. I have got over hating her,but I will never forgive her.
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Post by OLKoot on Sept 6, 2010 4:14:43 GMT 12.75
I here yah Toby.....A lot of Davids problems is his age and the fact he's the youngest.......It could be that he was devastated by getting 4f'd from the service, especially when your young ,strong and almost in your prime....I never got any disrespect from him when we would talk on FB......I therefore think there should be a waiting period before anyone can pass judgement....Like that young stallion that looks at you with a smile, then knocks yah on your butt the moment you get in the saddle......
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 7, 2010 7:04:01 GMT 12.75
Unfortunately a lot of the things he did was just outright mean. Dad went in his room and found a hole cut into the wall. What he found in that hole has led to the entire wall being stripped and new sheetrock and a whole new carpet having to be replaced in there. Dad's awaiting knee replacement surgery on both knees and not getting around so good and my own physical limitations has Dad deciding not to tackle the job ourselvse and hired a handy-man out of the paper for five-fifty. An inventory in Dad's private room shows a handgun and several knives missing as well. He's going to talk to Dave about that gun today....
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Post by OLKoot on Sept 7, 2010 15:51:54 GMT 12.75
Sorry to hear that Toby, I didn't know to what extent the problem was....I'll say a little prayer that David gets his head together before he gets into real serious trouble......
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Post by Paws on Sept 7, 2010 22:44:27 GMT 12.75
Add Sharon's grand daughter Kristen to that list Koot. She doesn't say much but a lot of the kids seem to be having a real battle these days.
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Post by OLKoot on Sept 8, 2010 4:37:10 GMT 12.75
You got it!!
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 8, 2010 9:18:37 GMT 12.75
I'm oraying hard for him to get his chit together; Mom and Dad especially. They keep reaching out to him letting him know if he needs anything to let them know; Mom's scared he'll go hungry. I think going hungry will do him some good. I'm thinking that they have done so much for him he expects the whole world to bow down for him. Little asshole's just spoiled and now going buckwild crazy because he's an adult now and the world ain't rushing out to give him whatever he wants. Rather than earn what he wants, he's just taking it and not only from us...lots of story's getting back to me. If he doesn't straighten up soon he'll be getting his Christmas cards at the Jailhouse!
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Post by OLKoot on Sept 8, 2010 10:01:44 GMT 12.75
Toby, it's all about this entitlement B.S that's going on in this generation and its got him by the butt.....He's the youngest, and you guys payed a lot of attention to his early needs...Now just don't get pissy at me as I'm not blaming y'all , you only did what you felt was right....What scares me is that pistol and knives he may have taken....
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Post by brittonfaith on Sept 8, 2010 10:55:12 GMT 12.75
Toby, Toby, Toby.......I don't know what to say that can help. You've caught wind of what's been going on up here. A certain Miss Somebody has been doing the same stuff. What I really hope is that she hasn't influenced David to do this chit!! I know they'd been doing a lot of chat and calling this summer. As a mom, I'm always worried. Yet, at the same time I just want to cut them off entirely and let them find out how hard life can get if they don't straighten themself up. One thing's for certain. I've been checking out some of the other FB mom's posts and we're definately not alone here. But there are days I do feel like a total failure for the way my kids turned out. I think satan is at work trying to undermine us as a lot of these kids come from upright families. This isn't a battle between us and the kids. It's part of what is written about in Revelation. I've decided to stand firm. I've drawn a line at the end of the driveway and none of their crap is permitted this side of it. Seems the entire generation (or at least 99.9% of it) has gone to hell in a hand basket. There are days I just wonder if mass sterilization wouldn't be a really great idea. At least we're getting Rob straightened out. He made it home and is really a changed young man. ;D Stand your ground and remain strong. It sure can be harder than heck some days. But grit your teeth, close your eyes, get on bended knee, go out and pet Donny Bull, jump in the lake.....whatever it takes. Just don't let "Sir David's" stunts bring you and your good reputation down. Wish we all were closer so we could all pat each other on the back for the great job we've (parents and sibs) have done. It ain't our fault they decided to turn into total pricks. (((((hugs))))) from the two of us to y'all. Ya ever need somebody just to listen, give us a call. Phone #'s are on my FB profile>info>contact information.
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Post by Toby Benoit on Sept 8, 2010 19:02:21 GMT 12.75
He'll straighten out eventually and I'll probably get over it in time. He's just all about the "friends" he's picked up and they're bringing him down in an out of control spiral it seems. He's lashing out and hurting everyone that's tried to help him; filled with resentment because we don't approve of his new life choices.
If he'd have gotten in the Army; things would be so different now...
Gun's recovered, but some knives are still missing. The gun he had taken from dad's room and hid it in an old bow case. He didn't take it and apologized to dad for almost stealing it.
I doubt he grew a consciense at the last minute, I think he just missed his window to get it out... Either way; that's resolved at least.
Mom and dad still hold out a lot of hope for him. I hope their right, but I am cutting him off until I see real changes. Really to sad; he's not stupid. He could clean up and be somebody some day... I dd my part; I got him an apartment and a job; the rest is up to him.
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Post by Two Tales on Sept 9, 2010 0:16:17 GMT 12.75
Toby,
I have stayed away from this thread on purpose..now it's time for my rwo cents worth..
You have made up your mind, however cutting him off is not the right answer either...not completly anyways..be kind, be fair...feed him if he's hungery...but no hand outs, a hand up yes by all means, but never a hand out...let him know that you expect something in return..that something must be an improvement in his situation and lifestyle...the pros call this "tough love" I call it it "common sense lessons" Problem is he knows how to work your parents and his friends ..and to some extent you also, so he must show proof of those improvements...set limits on what you and your folks will do and do not exceed those limits...there, those are my thoughts on this...take them for what they are worth...If you think prayers will help then pray he gets through this ...and don't be afraid to boot him in the ass when he needs it...
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Post by Paws on Sept 9, 2010 0:21:01 GMT 12.75
Toby, check his eyes, nerves, etc. Sounds to me like drugs. Might account for him not passing his induction evaluation too. Don't overlook the possibility.
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